I’m beginning to accept that I may never be in a relationship again. There are life expectations I have for myself, some admittedly selfish, but really, the idea of having to deal with another grownup who is as obstinate as I am has left me disillusioned about relationships. But I want to have kids. I want to be a father. For women, its fairy easy, go to a sperm bank, pick your choice, get the procedure done and you are on your way. What is the process for dudes? I believe its going to involve a surrogate, but where does one get a donor egg and what not? I am not looking to have a relationship with an egg donor or the surrogate, just me and the kids.

  • solrize@lemmy.ml
    631·
    10 hours ago

    If you can’t deal with an adult partner, dealing with kids might not be so great for you either.

    • Salamanderwizard@lemmy.world
      231·
      10 hours ago

      Ya, buddy. With an Adult you are dealing with another human who sometimes can be an asshole, dick, bitch, bastard, cunt , or whatever.

      A kid is all those things without every giving a fuck. If you have problems with adults, you definitely will be in hell with a kid.

      • iThinkDifferentThanU@lemmy.world
        119·
        10 hours ago

        Nah, kids are innocent 5ill teens. All us grown ups can go fuck ourselves, we’re all set in our ways older we grow, some are grouchy fucks others are well depends where ya live USA, I trust no one other than my kids no other adults

        • Salamanderwizard@lemmy.world
          5·
          6 hours ago

          Innocent? Buddy, my 6 yr old is the most ruthless person I know. He’ll circumvent either his mother or I depending on what he wants.

          Innocent no. Aware of their actions and what consequences may come? Nah. They don’t give a fuck. It’s why we teach em right and wrong.

    • nicgentile@lemmy.worldOP
      111·
      10 hours ago

      Had given this thought and it actually comes from here. Due to unforseen circumstances, I’ve been helping raise 3 kids for the last couple of years and I’m currently listed as their guardian. I’ve been involved with everything from diapers to after school stuff. I’m talking 85%+ of their time and needs comes from me. We went to the county a couple of years ago, to formalise some processes, and I’m now basically recognized.

      However, as this situation is coming to an end, probably in a couple of months, I found it enjoyable, despite the stresses. One thing I’ve learnt about kids is that they generally don’t have malice in their intent, while adults scheme and plot. Sure, we have had bad days and tempers have flared, but had it not been this situation ending, I would have done this thing all the way through. Given my extremely soft-landing as a parent, I realized I want more of it. Kids change you. Its weird.