I’m beginning to accept that I may never be in a relationship again. There are life expectations I have for myself, some admittedly selfish, but really, the idea of having to deal with another grownup who is as obstinate as I am has left me disillusioned about relationships. But I want to have kids. I want to be a father. For women, its fairy easy, go to a sperm bank, pick your choice, get the procedure done and you are on your way. What is the process for dudes? I believe its going to involve a surrogate, but where does one get a donor egg and what not? I am not looking to have a relationship with an egg donor or the surrogate, just me and the kids.

  • nicgentile@lemmy.worldOP
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    10 hours ago

    Had given this thought and it actually comes from here. Due to unforseen circumstances, I’ve been helping raise 3 kids for the last couple of years and I’m currently listed as their guardian. I’ve been involved with everything from diapers to after school stuff. I’m talking 85%+ of their time and needs comes from me. We went to the county a couple of years ago, to formalise some processes, and I’m now basically recognized.

    However, as this situation is coming to an end, probably in a couple of months, I found it enjoyable, despite the stresses. One thing I’ve learnt about kids is that they generally don’t have malice in their intent, while adults scheme and plot. Sure, we have had bad days and tempers have flared, but had it not been this situation ending, I would have done this thing all the way through. Given my extremely soft-landing as a parent, I realized I want more of it. Kids change you. Its weird.