Fifield, 41, is the second woman to allege this week that Platner engaged in nonconsensual sexual conduct. Jenny Racicot, 41, who said she previously dated Platner, told The Post and other outlets on Monday that he sexually assaulted her in late 2021, leading a growing number of allies to drop their endorsements and call on him to withdraw from the race for a Maine seat in the U.S. Senate. Sen. Bernie Sanders (I-Vermont), his most influential and prominent supporter, said he spoke with Platner on Tuesday and urged him to withdraw from his campaign to unseat Susan Collins, the incumbent Republican.

Platner, 41, a Marine Corps veteran and oyster farmer, also denied Racicot’s allegation but said on Monday that he was “mindful of the political reality” that the reporting will “inflict” on his campaign and was “taking the time to reflect on the best path forward.”

Fifield initially told The Post about the alleged condom removal during a June 20 interview that was off the record. She said she decided to speak publicly about it Tuesday in part because, she said, she wanted to show that Racicot was not alone in experiencing issues with Platner involving sexual consent.

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    If this were a conspiracy for Collins, they’d have waited til AFTER the deadline for Democrats to replace Platner on the ballot.

    And that’s to say nothing but disgust for some of the people in here who have chosen to respond to rape accusations with Trumpian levels of disregard for truth or reality.

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    Fifield, who spent 7 years working for the Heritage Foundation and made all of these accusations a few months ago without any evidence, is the reason why people are so hesitant to take the more recent one seriously.

    If the Heritage Foundation is doing anything to take you down, you’re probably doing something right.

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      The Politco story is well sourced with therapist and boyfriend messages from before Platner was ever in politics.

      Sometimes a broken clock is correct, this is one of those times.

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        Did they publish the evidence? Or are we to take the word of complicit media?

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          There are images of the texts in the Politico article. The therapist and ex-boyfriend’s testimonies as well.

          It’s not about taking the word of complicit media - it’s about taking this woman’s word.

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            I for one do believe her, however not without skepticism stemming from the massive and well funded effort to get him out of the race and put a friendly (to neo liberals) in position for critical votes. Both parties are making a massive effort here and therefore their actions, and those of media under their control are more suspect. I hadn’t seen the publication of evidence yesterday, guess I missed it. Thank you for sharing.

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      So Maine’s choices are an alleged sexual assualter or a known and confirmed adjudicated rapist and 99.9% likely a pedo protector known as Susan Collins? Two extremely shitty choices, I’ll admit.

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      I mean that’s the whole asymmetric corner we’ve painted ourselves into. Every time you give flimsy accusations the benefit of the doubt, you make real accusations less credibile. Every time you doubt real accusations, you enable rape culture. Normally the ethics seem clear - always believe women and rape culture eventually starves. But what if fascists weaponize the issue before that happens?

      Yeah, common sense says a conservative activist doing this during a campaign is probably full of shit. But didn’t Brett Kavanaugh’s accusers have the same smell? Maybe jumping in front of the spotlight is the only way these women can be taken seriously.

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      Heritage foundation… Yeah they are pretty much all liars . plus aren’t they against contraception?

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        It’s a long listen but worth checking out How Conservatism Won by Robert Evans. He lays out in a clear concise way “how a consortium of rich failsons got together to fund a network of right wing think tanks and shift American culture in a fun new direction. (note: it was not actually fun at all).”

        The Heritage Foundation is the at the root of a lot of the issues in the U.S. right now, it really can’t be overstated just how malicious they are. They write the policies and vet the candidates, if they’re not the actual shadowy cabal they definitely share some membership.

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    I heard that Susan Collins is dutifully loyal to a guy that ties 13-year-old children down so that he can fuck them without fear of being bitten or scratched.

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    I don’t wanna be that guy, but purposefully removing a condom during sex without consent is rape.

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      We’ve got weirdos pretending that this waters down the term rape in this thread, lovely.

      When you are having sex with someone, presumably you are trusting them? You are trusting them to be safe, to not push boundaries, to do only things you consent to do.

      When someone stealths you, they are saying that they don’t give a fuck about you. That trust was misplaced. They are willing to do something to you that you explicitly did not want. Are they going to stop there? (The same type also often pushes for anal/“accidentally” attempts penetration there.)

      It’s terrifying and traumatic. Your head races - are you current on your birth control? How likely do you think it is that this guy has some disease? And you get a physical reminder that your consent didn’t matter, the sensation and needing to clean up after if they finished.

      It’s also so goddamned common. It’s trivialized.

      If you slip the condom off without someone’s consent, you are a rapist. Rape fucks victims up whether it’s a stranger in the bushes or a FWB stealthing you.

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      The other allegation is also rape since he didn’t stop when she asked him to multiple times

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        I thought about what you said for a little while. After thinking hard, I believe I found the correct term for this kind of behavior. The term I came up with is “rape”. What do you think?

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        “I consent to protected sex” is not equivalent to “I consent to unprotected sex.”

        Rape means here is no valid consent to the sexual act itself (or consent is obtained through force, coercion, incapacity, etc.).

        The sexual act in question is unprotected sex. The man had no valid consent to the sexual act itself. Consent was not obtained. The woman’s bodily autonomy was violated.

        He knew this when he tried to take it off. Otherwise he could have consentfully never used it.

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            This is like when a Muslim family is attacked and the comments are all debating if racism is the correct term since Muslim isn’t a race.

            It’s just muddying the waters, destructing from the crime and the victims, and providing cover for the wrongdoers.

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        we’re not here to censore violence and minimize what happened to an actual victim of violence because your sensitive ears cant hear it. you and your delicate ears are not the victim here. the rape victim is. stop making their trajedy about your ears.

        be a better person than this.

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            Then don’t be. Rape is too overloaded. Find a more descriptive term.

            We don’t need to load any BS into your words, there’s plenty on display.

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              So, since you only see what you want to, let me spell it out. They already have various categories of rape. Like aggravated rape and such. These are like rape+. I am saying a more descriptive term like that should be used to highlight the heinousness of the crime. But you refuse to see that. You just want to be righteous so bad you will make up something to be righteous about.

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        Removing a condom during sex without consent, known as “stealthing,” is classified as a form of sexual assault in several countries, including Britain, Canada and parts of Australia. In the United States, Maine, California and Washington state have laws that address the nonconsensual removal of condoms during sex.

        There is another term for it, however, it still fits the bill as rape.

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        Putting your dick in someone without their consent is rape. She did not consent to him taking the condom off. This isn’t a grey area.

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        I don’t wanna be that guy, but it is rape. If you think that it isn’t, it’s on you to find the descriptive term, not me.

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          So the guy is also accused of not stopping when she said stop. That is also rape. Do you not see a problem with calling them both rape? Which sounds worse, 2 counts of rape. Or 1 count of rape and one count of <something more descriptive>. To me the second one conveys that he has a pattern of disregard for women beyond just one situation. I also think the condom thing shows intentional deception, where as he could claim he was too far into it to stop when she told him to. Combined as seperate things, they are more incriminating.

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            So the guy is also accused of not stopping when she said stop. That is also rape. Do you not see a problem with calling them both rape?

            …No???

            They ARE both rape.

            Just because one rape is different from another rape doesn’t mean they’re not both rape, what the actual fuck are you talking about.

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            where as he could claim he was too far into it to stop when she told him to.

            This made my skin crawl.

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              Yeah, but we know some judges and jury’s would accept this excuse. So using a more descriptive term would better represent the crime to those who might otherwise consider it less serious than it should be.

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      What if it slips off because your dick is too small?

      Maybe he’s got a thin penis like the detective in Deuce Bigalo Male Gigalo

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      Yes politics sucks. The sad part is it only gets worse the less you pay attention, but because you’re not paying attention, all is good.

      This whole thread though feels like two bots arguing about which one is more right.

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        It gets worse the more I pay attention. It gets worse no matter what. It destroys my faith in humanity and makes me hate being part of a social species.

        Fuck everyone and I hope we go extinct because we deserve it.

        And this reaction gets worse with every election cycle. Every election makes me hate people more.

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          I’m with you, if only our extinction didn’t take so many other animals with it

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    She estimated that Platner removed condoms without her consent at least six times when they had sex at both of their residences in D.C. during their two-year, on-and-off relationship. She said she told him that she was upset about it but that he would make light of the situation.

    “I confronted him both during and after [sex] because he knew that I was not on birth control and how dangerous that was,” she told The Post in one interview. In another, she said: “He would act like cute about it, like ‘Oh sneaky me.’”

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      I really don’t understand women. What would compel a person to have sex with someone who raped them 5 times already?

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          She said they dated on and off for about a year. Doesn’t sound like being “stuck” in a relationship. I get it that people have issues. I guess I’m just lucky I never had to deal with anything like that.

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            Yeah relationships can be complicated. It’s not only women that get caught up in it though.

            I’m going to take a wild educated guess that this particular woman’s conservative background set her up to allow men to take advantage of her in various ways as a pattern, but that is admittedly speculating based on lived experience.

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              Yeah relationships can be complicated. It’s not only women that get caught up in it though.

              Yeah, I guess you’re right. I still don’t get this though. There are bad matches, toxic relationships and then there’s being raped and agreeing to more sex. Just fucked up people going through things I guess. The question about Platner is can you really change? Or having issues 10 years ago means you can never be trusted again? And if that’s the standard should we trust his ex?

              Anyway, I think the issue was making him the candidate in the first place. It was clear form the beginning he’s toxic. People pretended it’s fine as long as they could but there’s a limit.

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                Or having issues 10 years ago means you can never be trusted again?

                Pretty sure this happened only 5 years ago in 2021. And no, I don’t think that’s enough time to change enough as a person to be trusted with a seat in the Senate personally.

                Anyway, I think the issue was making him the candidate in the first place. It was clear form the beginning he’s toxic. People pretended it’s fine as long as they could but there’s a limit.

                I absolutely agree. He should have never been chosen to begin with considering his complete history.

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                  He dated Fifield (the one accusing him of removing condoms) over 13 years ago. I thought the rape allegation are also from decade ago but you’re right, it was 5 years ago. So yeah, looks like he didn’t change.

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            Ohhhh hahaha our interaction pissed someone off enough to go through my recent post history and downvote every single comment.

            My goodness, the misogynists on this site get so cranky hahaha

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    How is it that Trump can say he grabs women by the pussy and still become president and Platner is so far only accused of sexual assault and his support is quickly eroding and he’s being asked to leave the race? Can it be the Democrats inability to articulate a response to the rigid parameters imposed on behavior by those in the party who insist such adherence is mandatory? The Republican response to Platner staying in the race is a known quantity that can be addressed and diminished even without the mountain of ammunition the Republicans can give Democrats. Yet the Democrats seem completely unprepared for the fight.

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      How is it that Trump can say he grabs women by the pussy and still become president and Platner is so far only accused of sexual assault and his support is quickly eroding and he’s being asked to leave the race?

      In case the other guy minced words a little too much, I’ll say it a bit more directly. Sexual misconduct and rape are bad. Left leaning voters do not like rapists, apparently right leaning voters do. Your concern about the fact that the right still elected trump, but that the left seems to be abandoning platner is effectively saying that you are perfectly fine with overlooking rape if it means that your political team gets a win. This makes you an asshole.

      Hope that cleared it up.

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      Everyone forgot about Amber Turd already. These are accusations, and already people act like he was convicted. Just shows throwing an accusation could impact someone’s political career just as much as if they were actually convicted. By the time you get proven innocent people will have already made up their minds and moved on.

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          From my understanding one of the accusations seemed to have records but the other did not. And again, just assuming every accusation is true, things can be doctored and faked.

          Wild that people think hesitating is somehow the same as supporting rapists or is wrong somehow. People have their lives ruined over false accusations but nobody seems to care about that.

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            When 1 in 4 women have been sexually assaulted and 1 in 6 women have been raped in the US, these accusations do not shock me in the slightest.

            It’s much more likely that this man with a history of violence took advantage of these women to get what he wanted.

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              5 in 6 women could be sexually assaulted and I still would hold off passing judgement until there was at least a hearing.

              I’m not shocked either. It’s seems like that’s probably what happened. Again, wild that wanting to hold off judgements until someone gets their day in court should not be controversial lol.

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                If your excuse is that things can be doctored and faked, then it kinda feels like you’ve already made up your mind on this. You don’t seem like you care what the evidence is.

                Like, if you’re gonna not care, at least don’t be a coward about it. I get that people won’t like you, but be more brazen in your misogyny so that people will avoid and dislike you sooner!

                Also, just to start a fire for fun, Amber Heard was abused, even if she wasn’t a perfect victim. It’s pretty well-documented, and Johnny Depp is a piece of shit. I don’t like that she returned the abuse, but that happens a lot in abusive relationships.

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                  Again you’re throwing numbers at me when I’ve already said it’s not about the numbers. It’s the belief that we should not let accusations be the same as convictions.

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      People like HBO Velma here who are far more gullible than they understand but still confident make up a large part of the center left. Probably thought Kamala was a good choice too.

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        Gullible to believe what? That a guy with a violent history would have the ability to rape a woman? What world do you live in where this isn’t a common held truth?

        I was very unhappy with Kamala, not that you’ll believe me. Rather talk shit than talk about the real issue at hand.

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      I think you’re missing the part where the people that supported Platner are no longer going to support him after finding out he’s a rapist. The people that supported Trump were fine voting for a rapist. Like, are you actually asking the Democrats to attempt to convince their voters to vote for a rapist? That’s where we are at now?

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      Maybe, and this is me having to think a few seconds… Progressive voters align more with moral behavior than Trump voters? A lot of progressives want things that make people’s lives better because they believe it is the right thing, and I would argue that raping people is a thing that they would deem as bad.

      Now, if your argument is that this is only an accusation and not proven… That’s a little more understandable. I would argue that this most recent accusation seems very credible. It’s also kinda fucking weird to say “If they’re okay with the child rapist Trump, we should be okay with an adult rapist!” That’s better in a way that sort of makes light of rape.

      I feel like if you sexually assault someone, you should never be allowed power should not be a controversial opinion, but I fucking bet it is.

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        I can’t believe this had to be said. But thanks. Holy shit. I’m reminded at times like this that a lot of people that follow politics literally just treat it like a team sport. Like, it’s entertaining for them but they aren’t actually interested in obtaining power to achieve political goals. They just want their team to win.

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          There is something to be said about these types of people. They fight for the person and not the message. His message is what matters here, and I think a hard line in the sand of “No Rapists” shouldn’t be a hard bar to cover. He had a lot of other issues, but that’s kind of an easy line for a lot of people to draw.

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            Agreed. We’re also seeing a lot of people expose themselves as rapist or rape apologist because of this. Like, I hope this can be a learning moment for them, but I doubt it will be.

            It’s just really basic shit. Like not understanding that consent can be revoked at anytime.

            Like, even people I really respect are trying to place doubt on this poor woman.

            Like I really respect Ryan Grim from DropSite news. But he literally just posted about “missing context”.

            This is not “journalist integrity”. This is a conscious choice by Politico to not include a portion of the story in their story that would introduce victim blaming. It is not “context”. It’s about as useful as telling us what Platner had to eat on the day he raped her.

            CONSENT CAN BE REVOKED AT ANY TIME. If Platner didn’t stop when that consent was revoked than he’s a rapist. That’s it.

            I guess Ryan Grim has boomer brainrot or something. He should have provided the additional “context” and then explained it how I just did. This “asking for it” rape culture shit really needs to die. It’s people like him that I hope learn from this. Because DropSite and him are really doing good work. I think it just shows how much rape culture is still a part of our society throughout the political spectrum.

            It’s just hard right now to educate people when the tensions and frustrations are so high right now. It’s hard to differentiate between the people worth using this moment to teach; and those that should be shamed for being rape apologist. Some people are just not worth the effort and that’s ok.

            Sorry, rant, but I read your reply after being frustrated by this shit.

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    so both these accusers were “raped” in 2021. So why wait until now.

    Why is Platner such a threat to the old Democrats?

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      I previously had you tagged as ‘likely misogynist’ but now you’re upgraded to confirmed misogynist and rapist defender

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        Potential rapist defender*

        But the obvious answer to their question is that it’s easier to come forward when you know you aren’t alone.

        With that 5 years isn’t even that long so why would they think it’s a conspiracy?

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          With that 5 years isn’t even that long so why would they think it’s a conspiracy?

          They never believed women to begin with, so it’s easy for them to assume a conspiracy over the much more likely scenario that he raped her and other women.

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        It’s like we all collectively forgot about Me Too or it wasn’t nearly as effective as we wanted it to be.

        I’m incredibly disappointed in the reaction from some on the left to this issue.

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          I don’t think MeToo failed. It succeeded in making known how prevalent sexual assault was. And it allowed women, including this women, to come forward with her story.

          I do think MeToo could never really fight against sexual assault in its entirety because it wasn’t aimed at the perpetrators. It was aimed at the victims, to tell them they weren’t alone, that it was okay to talk about their experiences, that they had people that understood them.

          And that is a great first step! But to really fight sexual assault, you need to aim at the those that commit assault as well.

          You need to have them listen to the stories of the victims. You need to have them hear their pain that they have and continue to cause. You need to have them reconcile what they have done with who they are. It is not enough to prop up and help the victims. You also have to reform and help the offenders.

          And that sounds a little crazy, that somehow the offenders are due some sort of relief for the crimes they have done. I don’t want anyone reading that to think that they don’t owe their victims some form of becoming whole again. Only that there has to be a movement aimed at the offenders of sexual assault to truly fight against it.

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            I know personally, I am much better informed now about the systemic realities around silencing of rape and sexual assault victims. I knew before some, I just know more now. Part of that was just having more life experiences in general, but I also credit Me Too.

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    If the guy has any actual desire to do good in the world, the best thing he could do now is drop out. Given his stated politics, I figured the tattoo was from when he was young and stupid, like he said, but this shit… People don’t outgrow this shit.

    He needs to go.

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      Yeah, there’s still plausible deniability, I’m not fully convinced he’s a rapist, I’m just not particularly convinced he isn’t given the accusations. Holding his ground will say he’s more invested in his ego than his professed beliefs.

      If he’s innocent I hope he drops out and continues the fight to clear his name.

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      They can outgrow it, just takes more work than most people are willing to do. I’m with you though, if he were truly reformed he wouldn’t say it never happened, he’d own up to it an explain.

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      I dug up his old Reddit comment about rape victims earlier because I was curious and couldn’t quite remember the details:

      “Holy fuck, how about people just take some responsibility for themselves and not get so fucked up they wind up having sex with someone they don’t mean to? Men and women, you make a choice to consume enough of a substance to lose your self control. So if you don’t want to be in a comprising situation, act like an adult for fucks sake.”

      He needs to drop out.

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    So are we saying our preferred outcome is for Susan Collins to retain her seat? I have a hard time landing on that as the morally correct choice no matter what is on the other side of the table. I think what does the most good for the most people in this situation is for her to be out of office.

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      We don’t need more rapists in office. It shouldn’t be that hard to find a candidate that doesn’t rape people.

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      Platner should drop out and they should coalesce around Troy Jackson if he wants to run. Appeal to the base that wanted Platner in the first place and focus on forcing that old corpse Collins out no matter what.

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      If platner had a long track record of community organizing and working towards the things he has claimed on his platform? I would still not be able to say “Let’s support the rapist nazi” but I would at least understand the logic.

      He has no political or leadership track record. He said a few things you want to hear and that is it.

      What he DOES have a track record of is lying. Whether it be blatant lies about a “military history buff” reddit user having no idea what Mitchell and Webb’s totenkopf is or, ya know, all the rape?

      So we have a wildcard candidate where the only thing we know about him is that he is a rapist nazi. MAYBE it is worth getting someone else on that ticket?

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        I don’t give two shits about Platner. I care about unseating Susan Collins. Platner seems to have the best chance at accomplishing that, as far as I can tell.

        Stopping, or at least slowing down, Trump is the ultimate goal. We know Susan Collins won’t do that. All her replacement needs to do is vote with Trump less than 90% of the time for it to be a significant win.

        If there’s a way to get there without Platner I’m all ears, but all I hear right now is talk of letting Republicans keep the seat and that seems like the worst case scenario to me.

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          Platner seems to have the best chance at accomplishing that

          HAD the best chance.

          Regardless of if the allegations are true or not, Platner has no shot at this point. This will deflate any momentum he had. It is going to disillusion too many that he will not have the enthusastic support needed to beat Collins. His campaign is just too toxic at this point, people arent going to show.

          So either we huff copium, and deny that reality until he gets defeated later OR we pivot now while we still have any shot.

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            There are polls coming out now. A while ago, he was running about 10 points ahead of Collins. Recently, he was neck-in-neck, within the margin of error. This will certainly put Collins in the lead. And I don’t see a path for him to recover. Even if nothing more comes up, his campaign is cooked. He should drop out so that Maine has a real choice in November.

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          Voting against people is what’s given conservatives disguised as centrists power all around the world. Stop being so proudly stupid and actually demand real change. It can be done, but carrying on like you are only adds barriers to progress.

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          And how does electing more nazis and more rapists help with slowing down trump?

          If there’s a way to get there without Platner I’m all ears,

          Well… the first step is to do what we should have done back during the primaries and get the nazi mercenary off the ticket and put someone else up there. From what I’ve seen, Troy Jackson seems like a great candidate. Very similar platform, good Union boy, and has a strong track record of actually trying to follow through on his campaign promises at the state level.

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    I maintain if a partner says they are sexually monogamous then has unprotected sex outside the “monogamous” relationship, while continuing to have unprotected sex inside the “monogamous” without giving one or more partners the option of informed consent, that is also SA.

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      I don’t know him like you do, so I can only say nothing. Don’t wanna slander people.