Basically just something people say that indicates a position indirectly, like how seperatists from a given region might always say they’re from [region] and not [country] or how trump supporters call AI “SI” now.
Basically just something people say that indicates a position indirectly, like how seperatists from a given region might always say they’re from [region] and not [country] or how trump supporters call AI “SI” now.
I’ll contribute. I refer to my wife as my “partner”.
People on the left just continue conversation no problem. People on the right pause and you can see the wheels turning.
I’m a white not very masculine male.
Another white not very masculine male here - which I think is every bit as normal as being a woman who isn’t an insanely hot babe. It’s weird when things that are almost fringe become unattainable standards for a vast majority who really have no reason to feel inadequate.
Fuck yeah. Nice
I do this. Someone called me out for pretending to be gay. Stolen valor!
I was just like. Sorry? I tried to be inclusive. Oh well, can’t win 'em all.
I’m sorry to hear that :( some people can’t be happy unless they’re angry at someone I guess.
“No, don’t worry, Mr. Conservative. I’m male, she’s female, your norms aren’t being broken yet.”
“…Yeh, but partner implies she’s your equal. That don’t sit right.”
EXACTLY 🙄
Partner sounds more serious than boyfriend or girlfriend anyway.
“Partner” sounds like “spouse” to me, without the marriage ceremony.
Very good example, thank you, whenever someone says “partner” I immediately assume they’re at least somewhat woke.
They might just use the English language correctly.
Woke is in partners with grammar
When they say “property” on the other hand…
I mean, if there’s a safe word involved…
The next level is referring to women as “devices”
Feeemales
Okay, but what if they also have some ridiculous 10 gallon hat on?
I’m from Texas, so it works both ways… Pardner hat tip 🤠
Okie here. “Pardner” is one thing. Put a hard “T” in it and it’s another.
English is so fucking weird. Then I read about various Chinese dialects and think, “How could anyone learn that?!” Same as I learned English I guess. :)
It’s not actually accurate to spell it “pardner”, it’s more of an emphasis on softening the “tee” sound because that’s how you’d say it with a southern accent.
I’m from Oklahoma, I wear a ten gallon hat most days to work my acreage, to walk my doggies, when I have to work markets, and I’m so woke the coffee needs me to get it up early in the morning.
https://youtu.be/BirJMnMcfBs?is=01s0JMZ-r9OqOgRM
The first time a friend referred to me wife as my “partner”, I questioned his choice of words because he was well aware that I’m not gay.
Like, I would still just carry on in convo, but if I hear “partner”, I make a mental note that they’re gay. The correlation has close to a 100% hit rate.
Same. You’re getting downvoted because lemmy cannot allow for regional language distinctions. Not even different countries, regions. It’s a big world.
No one where I’m at would refer to a married couple as partners. Nothing wrong with that, but it usually connotes a gay relationship.
I know many (myself included) who are in heterosexual relationships and say partner due to not being married. It’s a pretty common thing…
…in my region of English speakers.
Online, at least, I’ve probably heard more hetero people than gay people use “partner.” In some cases they were in fact perfectly conventionally full-blown married, they just weren’t interested in sharing any more details than they had to to tell whatever story they were telling, because that detail wasn’t important for the story.
That checks out. You’d use the term to be deliberately vague. Online, you’d be giving away your gender and marital status to the scraperbots. In person, a vague response lands differently. Particularly when speaking one-on-one.
You know what’s funny about that? A lot of my hetero friends also say partner.
I started using it because it removes the baggage that gendered terms carry. My wife is my best friend. I like to do everything with her. We split chores pretty evenly.
…in my region of English speakers.
…in the USA. I have friends and family all over.
yeah we started using it because we were past dating, but not married. it seemed appropriate.
Yet another use case! Not sure I’ve heard it that way in my area, not much anyway. Even us old folks say “girlfriend”/“boyfriend” if unmarried.
This is a you issue
It’s really not an issue.
It kind of is though.
Hetero people who don’t believe in marriage and/or don’t like husband/wife titles sometimes use titles like partner too because girlfriend/boyfriend doesn’t sound serious enough I guess. Common amongst my social circle but I get why it’s usually a dog whistle.
Also literally everyone in Europe
“partner” sounds like you’re lawyers. just make up a word, or take one from another language. we use “sambo”.
We have a perfectly good word in the English language, it’s “partner”
“partner” sounds like you’re lawyers. just make up a word, or take one from another language. we use “sambo”.
We have a perfectly good word in the English language, it’s “partner”
It doesn’t work quite as well in English
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sambo_(racial_term)
…no, no it does not. wow.
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Gawd but he NAILED me. Listening to Wait Wait and rasing chickens. Which are, btw, fantastic for making compost.
Dude municipal compost is fucking amazing.
Trash doesn’t smell anymore.