My mother telling me I should not think that she makes any money with me. (Backstory: Was living with her, dad paid alimony child support). I was baffled, because even when I lowkey suspected that, it was not even a relevant thing for our conversation at this time.
A few years later, when I wanted to move out for studying it was suddendly a problem, because she could not make the full payments for her house without the alimony child supprt from my dad. So I stayed.
Some more years down the line I finally wanted to move out, as I had a full time job in sight and wanted to live with my boyfriend. I was in my mid-twenties. Basically the conversation was the same as before, she could not pay for her house without me. She could not answer my question how she thought this would work out. Was she expecting me to live with her until she paid for the house? Because this would be up until my forties, maybe longer. The house is not big enough for two families, so it was never an option for me and my bf to move in. Of course I moved out.
Differently. I have two friends “left” from kindergarten. Some from school. And then there are some which I only know because of wider music and scene related friend-groups, starting at the age of 14. Sharing the same socio-econimical Background and similar familiy related histories with most, which gives us similar problems in life. I really enjoy being around those people for such a long time (Am over 30 now), knowing their ups and downs in life, where they come from.