I’m beginning to accept that I may never be in a relationship again. There are life expectations I have for myself, some admittedly selfish, but really, the idea of having to deal with another grownup who is as obstinate as I am has left me disillusioned about relationships. But I want to have kids. I want to be a father. For women, its fairy easy, go to a sperm bank, pick your choice, get the procedure done and you are on your way. What is the process for dudes? I believe its going to involve a surrogate, but where does one get a donor egg and what not? I am not looking to have a relationship with an egg donor or the surrogate, just me and the kids.
You’ll always have the risk of the mother changing mind and keep the kid i think. Children need their mother. Trying to force that life on a child because that’s your lifestyle is not selfish, it’s psycho.
The whole game around finding someone you actually like has a reason. The resulting child will have traits of both parents. Of course some of our character is due to experience but you underestimate how much of it is imprinted.
So single fathers should just give up their children for adoption (by whom?), because “children need their mother”? Go fuck yourself.
Who said anything about “forcing” a surrogate? Women do it all the time. IIRC many places have laws to protect exactly that situation - if the surrogate mother changes her mind, she may (although there will be financial penalties, as it’sa breach of contract).