I’m beginning to accept that I may never be in a relationship again. There are life expectations I have for myself, some admittedly selfish, but really, the idea of having to deal with another grownup who is as obstinate as I am has left me disillusioned about relationships. But I want to have kids. I want to be a father. For women, its fairy easy, go to a sperm bank, pick your choice, get the procedure done and you are on your way. What is the process for dudes? I believe its going to involve a surrogate, but where does one get a donor egg and what not? I am not looking to have a relationship with an egg donor or the surrogate, just me and the kids.

  • CombatWombat@feddit.onlineEnglish
    5·
    9 hours ago

    I am not a parent, I am a soccer account on the fediverse, so this is the best I’ve got:

    If you’re looking for a gentle on-ramp into having a kid around the house, maybe starting small with something like a home stay program is easier? My local usl 2 team and my local mls side are always looking for people to host young adults who come to the city to train, and there are a lot of foreign exchange programs (by way of example – maybe your area has something similar?). It might be easier to assess how you feel about being a single parent with a teen for a summer than an infant from a surrogate, and as much as I hate to say this, building a bit of a resume as a single man may be required for you, and something like that might help.

    • nicgentile@lemmy.worldOP
      3·
      9 hours ago

      I’m already helping raise 3 kids and have been doing so for years. My dynamic is changing, and since I’m going solo, this is one future I want to explore and try make happen.

      I also did the soccer team thing, we never won a single game this season, dang. Cleats and shinguards for growing kids pile up quick.