We met on a dating app, have had two great dates so far, and I’ve been unplugging while traveling on and off. While I am really glad he is making plans for a 3rd date (I first alluded to it when I texted him after my trip), I’m totally confused and wondering if I should ask why he potentially unmatched me on the app and the mixed signals. Are there red flags? Yellow flags? Or is he just trying to play hard to get a little and it’s fair because I’ve been unplugging intentionally during my time off? For full context, please see my previous post. Any insight and advice is appreciated because I am even more flummoxed now than before. Thanks!
if you’re curious about why someone did a thing, ask that person directly.
The general internet will not know any facts, and will only assume everything based on their experiences, and echo chambers they like to visit all the time…
The best advice you’ll get! Always go to the source!
At worst, he gives you a cagey answer, and then you have information about how this person handles direct questions.
At best, he gives you an understandable answer and you grow closer as a result!
Generally speaking, think about forming your statements as “When you said/did X, I felt Y”. This is sometimes called “telling your own story”. Example…
“You were being evasive!”
Vs.
“When you went off the dating app, The story I made up about it is that you were trying to avoid me”.
Even if it doesn’t work out this is always great practice for life. Best of luck!
Yeah, we’re gonna need some facts for those capitalist claims, bud.