I’m sorry that you have a find out this way, but you’ve been scammed.
Self-help books have sold you and your community the idea that abuse is caused by a mental disorder. Unfortunately, the remedy these scams prescribe - identifying people with NPD - doesn’t actually protect you from abuse, and it isn’t healing.
You won’t find healing from your trauma in ableist Reddit communities. See an actual therapist and form positive relationships with people in your community. Not “support groups” that blame all their problems on their abusers’ supposed mental disorders and engage in retraumatising. Get a hobby, spend time with friends in the hobby. Join a book club or a bouldering group or a D&D game.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is caused by genetics and child abuse. People with NPD are abuse victims, just like you. There are plenty of mentally healthy, neurotypical abusers in the world. Blaming shit on a vulnerable minority is pseudoscientific and counterproductive.
It’s not a good idea to run defense for people who are narcissists when you know nothing about them as a person.
There are people with NPD who are abusers and horrible people, just like there are people without NPD who are also abusers and horrible people. It’s naive to think otherwise.
Not every single person with NPD is this innocent misunderstood soul who deserves to be coddled in forgiveness and you need to accept that.
Oh, I’m talking about My friend, Riley. He’s a bit of a prick but he’s never abused anyone. His biggest character flaw is that he loves his rural American family, and they’re not the best about his transness.
I’m sorry that you have a find out this way, but you’ve been scammed.
Self-help books have sold you and your community the idea that abuse is caused by a mental disorder. Unfortunately, the remedy these scams prescribe - identifying people with NPD - doesn’t actually protect you from abuse, and it isn’t healing.
You won’t find healing from your trauma in ableist Reddit communities. See an actual therapist and form positive relationships with people in your community. Not “support groups” that blame all their problems on their abusers’ supposed mental disorders and engage in retraumatising. Get a hobby, spend time with friends in the hobby. Join a book club or a bouldering group or a D&D game.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is caused by genetics and child abuse. People with NPD are abuse victims, just like you. There are plenty of mentally healthy, neurotypical abusers in the world. Blaming shit on a vulnerable minority is pseudoscientific and counterproductive.
It’s not a good idea to run defense for people who are narcissists when you know nothing about them as a person.
There are people with NPD who are abusers and horrible people, just like there are people without NPD who are also abusers and horrible people. It’s naive to think otherwise.
Not every single person with NPD is this innocent misunderstood soul who deserves to be coddled in forgiveness and you need to accept that.
Oh, I’m talking about My friend, Riley. He’s a bit of a prick but he’s never abused anyone. His biggest character flaw is that he loves his rural American family, and they’re not the best about his transness.