• nodiratime@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    I once met someone who was at least 10kg heavier, 5yrs older and much weirder than the pictures led me to believe. She also insisted I (and everyone she took strolls with) stay on her right side, all the time.

    Antoher time, a women became physically “playful” often. I brushed it off, until one time she it did while holding a knife in her hand. I told her to stop that, or I would ditch her asap. Sometime afterwards, we laid on a couch and she wedged herself between the couch and me, pushing me off. I wanted to break my fall, effectively spinning and bruising my latissimus really badly. Told her to fuck off after that, she didn’t realize that I was in fact very serious and she didn’t see how her behaviour could be an issue.

    Another one thought it was a great idea to scratch me so heavily on the side of my neck that I developed a slight infection, which turned into a light ‘scar’ before fading. She - too - didn’t see the problem.

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      As to the walking on the right thing I make people do that too but its because I’m deaf in my left ear. Maybe it was a similar situation for her? I usually tell people why I’m doing it though because I’ve gotten enough funny looks about it over the years.

      • AskewLord@piefed.social
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        No, it’s because it’s considered chivalrous for the man to put himself between the street and his woman to protect her.

        It’s 19th century crap that dummies still think is relevant, and there are many of them out there.

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        I’m not firm on the details of the situation anymore, but I categorized it under “pretty weird quirk”, so I am almost certain there were no tangible reasons and she presented it as a “standalone” need/thing.

        I’m sorry you have to explain yourself sometimes though :(

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      Did they not understand the concept of pain?

      Maybe they think being on edge all the time is normal.

      Sorry people have poor communication skills and don’t register words or even visible human emotions.

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      Probably someone who is into kinky stuff, but very much in the closet. I know because I kind of was the same. I hope for her and her future lovers that she realises and reads the right stuff and is able to live out her fantasy in a healthy way with someone who is into that, too.