Well… to be fair… nobody can sustain the wild life forever… the rolling stones are sober, Charlie Sheen is sober, etc. Everyone chills out or burns out… The healthiest way to deal with this is to find a balance. Think of what you enjoy and what you dislike about both sides and try and find a middle ground.
For some of my friends, that meant gathering 2-3 times a year and throwing a small rave where they can indulge in the wild life before going back to their normal one. For another, it was about finding a partner that was into swinging. For others it was simply enough to have enough to have a couple of good, supportive friends who kept them grounded.
And luckily for these “chosen” benevolent leaders who just happen to reside in palaces, these socialist states have no end in sight. In one of your linked examples, dprk has been trying to reach communism for over 70 years now. And their chosen leader happened to choose his son to benevolently lead their people. And that son happened to choose his son to continue his work to bring upon communism. Almost like a monarchy, but not quite because they’re socialist and they have “democratic” in name so they’re actually good and totally different.