Every woman I am friends with have all told me that the bar for men is on the fucking ground and they still find a way to get under it. The reason why men are awful is because of the privilege that the patriarchy gives men. As a man, you have to actively reject that privilege.

I found this out when I was looking for resources on how to support a pregnant partner. Most of the stuff I found just said “listen to her and do at least some of the stuff she asks you to do”, which I thought was the bare minimum. Then I found articles that also said “don’t force yourself on her” and “be patient when she has mood swings, don’t beat her”, and I realized where the bar actually might be.