I think it’s a vicious cycle there more than one creating the whole situation. The expectation that men will be sexually aggressive encourages women to be sexually defensive which includes masking desire which leaves much more room for men to be encouraged to be sexually aggressive.
The ultimate solution is to work on both at the same time. We need to continue the push for sexual liberation, which includes encouraging women to be open about desires and to make moves, but is ultimately the process of getting men/women to move from an aggressive/defensive approach to sex to both having an egalitarian and cooperative approach
At least that’s my outsiders perspective, I’m a lesbian who never dated men, so grain of salt and whatnot
It’s more or less spot on, from what I’ve seen, and it makes perfect sense. You don’t get a system to last centuries without making it thoroughly self-reinforcing. And it’s precisely what makes the outside perspectives valuable: it’s hard for a fish to see water unless you take it out of it. Otherwise you just end up turning “boys will be boys” into “yes all men”.
I think it’s a vicious cycle there more than one creating the whole situation. The expectation that men will be sexually aggressive encourages women to be sexually defensive which includes masking desire which leaves much more room for men to be encouraged to be sexually aggressive.
The ultimate solution is to work on both at the same time. We need to continue the push for sexual liberation, which includes encouraging women to be open about desires and to make moves, but is ultimately the process of getting men/women to move from an aggressive/defensive approach to sex to both having an egalitarian and cooperative approach
At least that’s my outsiders perspective, I’m a lesbian who never dated men, so grain of salt and whatnot
It’s more or less spot on, from what I’ve seen, and it makes perfect sense. You don’t get a system to last centuries without making it thoroughly self-reinforcing. And it’s precisely what makes the outside perspectives valuable: it’s hard for a fish to see water unless you take it out of it. Otherwise you just end up turning “boys will be boys” into “yes all men”.