I’ve had a similar experience. In my early adulthood, I fell hard for a girl at my school. She liked me back and we flirted for months.
Eventually, things escalate at a party and she ends up coming back with me to my dorm room. She crawls into my bed next to me and immediately pretends to fall asleep.
I’m young, inexperienced and nervous and not really sure what I’m supposed to do in that situation. So I end up laying there pretending to sleep as well. After a couple hours she gets up and leaves without a word or acknowledgement.
And thus that fling came to an end. I was devastated and confused. I asked her friends what went wrong and apparently the expectation was that I was supposed to make a move on her while she was “sleeping” and the fact that I didn’t signaled that I wasn’t interested. She took it as a rejection and left with hurt feelings.
We were young and dumb and as far as I’m concerned I did the right thing. I only wish I had the brains and maturity to communicate my feelings better at the time. But it’s always struck me as weird that in that moment I was “supposed” to do what essentially amounts to sexual assault.
That was wierd that she just expected that. You didn’t do anything wrong. Maybe say something as she was leaving but other than that she shouldn’t have just expected you to take advantage of her.
I’ve had a similar experience. In my early adulthood, I fell hard for a girl at my school. She liked me back and we flirted for months.
Eventually, things escalate at a party and she ends up coming back with me to my dorm room. She crawls into my bed next to me and immediately pretends to fall asleep.
I’m young, inexperienced and nervous and not really sure what I’m supposed to do in that situation. So I end up laying there pretending to sleep as well. After a couple hours she gets up and leaves without a word or acknowledgement.
And thus that fling came to an end. I was devastated and confused. I asked her friends what went wrong and apparently the expectation was that I was supposed to make a move on her while she was “sleeping” and the fact that I didn’t signaled that I wasn’t interested. She took it as a rejection and left with hurt feelings.
We were young and dumb and as far as I’m concerned I did the right thing. I only wish I had the brains and maturity to communicate my feelings better at the time. But it’s always struck me as weird that in that moment I was “supposed” to do what essentially amounts to sexual assault.
That was wierd that she just expected that. You didn’t do anything wrong. Maybe say something as she was leaving but other than that she shouldn’t have just expected you to take advantage of her.