I never angled for management per se in these jumps; often it was doing only slightly different work (mostly just swapping the emphasis on different tools/languages/operations systems, etc.) but just getting gouged because market rates went up or how I came in with a lowballed salary because of coming in with no experience or after a layoff…

Sorry to hear about your struggles. Yeah, work is a place that is rarely accommodating of, well, anything, least of all people that are not cut from a certain mold.