As a queer person from a very red place, I can tell you that this is the most common. Very few people are open about the harm they want to inflict on the “other”. Most will “except” the queer or black skinned neighbor or cousin, but still promote their destruction through the people and policies they support. Then, when the gestapo come, they will turn and look away.

They are ashamed of the filth they culture in their bellies, and have not the spine to look at it. I prefer an open nazi to a neighbor who will turn away when they come for me.

You see it yourself. You just brought it up. Your father was abused by the system, and now he needs to see that abuse put onto others. He saw trump saying “I will hurt people” and he made every excuse to vote for it.