I’ve noticed a pattern. Every now and then, someone leaves a rude, mean, or snarky comment on one of my posts. Occasionally, out of curiosity, I’ll check their post history, and it’s almost always nothing but negativity. They never seem to have anything positive or kind to say about anything, whether it’s politics, hobbies, personal anecdotes, or whatever else. It’s just a constant stream of bitterness and hostility. After seeing so many accounts like this, it got me wondering: what do people actually get out of being like that? The idea of willingly immersing yourself in that much negativity is genuinely alien to me.

  • Xeno@lemmy.zip
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    Perhaps it’s similar to the reasons why media outlets overwhelmingly report bad news over good news. People don’t care when things are going right. People react much more when things are going wrong.

    In social media I imagine that most of the positive feedback people give takes the form of likes and upvotes, with only occasional comments, while the bulk of commentary is used for criticism and confrontation. At least in the context of doomscrolling through things like memes or political garbage. Forums where engagement itself is the norm, like philosophy or hobbies, probably get way more positive comments. But where impulsive reaction is the norm? Positivity comes in the form of thumbs up emojis, and comments are for arguing. XD

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    Internet trolls and edge lords: too angry to live and let live, too cowardly to lash out in person.

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    I think they don’t know how to be anything else. Probably grew up with parents like that and had no other role models.

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    I knew someone IRL like that. Genuinely nice guy face-to-face, but never passed up the chance to take a swipe at someone online. As time went by his conduct and attitudes made it clearer and clearer that he’s dealing with undiagnosed mental health issues.

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    Some people are just nasty little bastards, and they gain pleasure from ruining other people’s days and lives.

    Sometimes there’s some background reasons of anger or unhappiness causing them to lash out. Sometimes they’re just cunts.

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    I know a couple of people IRL who never seem to have a positive reaction to anything. The proverbial “every silver lining has a cloud” people: got a raise? just means more taxes. Sunny day? skin cancer. Cloudy day? cold and mud.

    For the particular people I know, it seems like a self-esteem thing - like they don’t feel themselves worthy of happiness, so they have to preemptively destroy anything positive. Or maybe just be contrarian to prove they’re smarter than everyone else. It’s exhausting.

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      the taxes thing is so weird and stupid. but i have know many a moron who like think they are ‘fighting’ back the evil government by taking less pay from their job…

      but of course these folks are also allergic to how math works, so…

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      And who better to take that out on than a confident highly sexual woman who is comfortable with herself?

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    man from the title I was like. um if your in the us there is a lot to be negative about. but hobbies and such that makes no sense.

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    Different reasons, I asume. Here are my 3 favourites:

    • Attention seeking through rage bait. They want attention be it possitive or negative, the easiest is to be negative and to be a troll. Way too many people fall for it and give them their vanity when responding to them. Thus, remember never feed the troll.

    • Negative emotions are way more intense than possitive emotions and in social media most of the time they are pushed harder as more people interact with negative content. That can lead for younger people to feel like they need to be more negative than they should.

    • They are struggling themselves and don’t have help and don’t know they are struggling or know they are and just want others to struggle to.

    Disclaimer, I’m not a psychologist, but these are my assumptions.

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      Rage also fosters engagement. There’s likely corporate financed ragers out there for engagement purposes. Just like brand defenders/promoters.

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      i much prefer doing positive attention baiting. on tiktok especially i like going to small artists’ channels and saying nice things about their art (that i do mean), they reply quite often :)

      sometimes i even get an amazing treat in return! - more art! not always, but sometimes, i notice artists posting more after i visit their channel a few times. It really makes me feel this comfortable warmth in my chest

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        I refer to it as “sowing karma”. I don’t believe actual karma exists. However, a small positive act can create an avalanche of other, small positive acts.

        Whenever I do someone a favour, particularly random people. If they try or offer to pay me back, I tell them to pay it forward. I’ve no idea how many do, but even if it’s just 1 or 2, then the world is that bit better for all of us.

        Keep being awesome!

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      While I don’t think this applies to many of the people being described here, I also feel like those of us who don’t really use much social media other than to reach out on public platforms to complain to companies could appear to be a bundle of pure negativity.

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    Im not sure its willingness. These people are all around irl too. They just cannot be happy about anything, ever and mist spread negativity.

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    Mental illness if it is just lashing out and undermining others for a temporary boost of one’s own superiority.

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    A lot (most) social media is optimized for engagement which is really just another way if saying it rewards things that get attention with more attention. On mainstream platforms that is largely driven by content curation algorithms, but even simple up and down votes have the same effect.

    It turns out humans are more sensitive to bad things than good things. We care more about risk or punishment than we do about reward, more about injustice than justice, etc. So we pay more attention to bad outcomes, which means social media amplifies bad things more than good things.

    As far as personal posters go, I think there are people who desire engagement and have basically trained themselves to be as negative as possible because that negativity is rewarded by more engagement.

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    I’m actually a gremlin who gains sustenance when other people are mad on the internet.

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    Some people are just fucking assholes. Or they’re a 16-year-old edge lord. Never forget that high schoolers and children FAR outnumber adults on the internet, and of those adults, assholes, dickheads, and morons comprise the vast majority of them.

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    14 hours ago

    Angry, powerless people can use their interactions with others on the internet as an outlet, to correct views they see as threatening, or just to lash out at people they perceive as ‘the problem’, and/or a way to feel they have a voice/are making some difference when they don’t get enough opportunity to do this offline.

    Separately, trolls just like to mess with people for a basic sense of power and entertainment, and to feel like they matter, again when they otherwise don’t have ways to feel that offline.

    Paid trolls/bots can also express negative views either about specific topics, or on specific communities, if these are targeted as going against some political or commercial goal. These may also intersperse red herring interactions that are not to do with the explicit goal to make the account appear more like a regular person’s.

    It can be hard to tell which is which, but these all exist, and all can manifest in a pattern of seemingly inconsistent but predominantly negative posts/comments.