• RebekahWSD@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    I’m fat and usually wearing a mask so even if my face is nice the fat overrides it and one thing I find annoying is if I compliment men they will always immediately look me up and down, write me off, and then be pissed I complimented them because they don’t want to fuck me. “…thaaanks” they go. Like it’s an insult my fat ass complimented them. Women just appreciate my compliments (there’s been a few who didn’t but it’s much much muuuuch rarer). Let me fucking compliment your watch without thinking I’m hitting on you you dingus!!!

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      16 hours ago

      Or could they be looking for what you want? A lot of us almost never get compliments so our first thought is what do you want from me.

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      20 hours ago

      You sure they werent just looking for cameras?

      Cause any time a woman approaches me in public (which isnt very often, before i sound like some bragging fool), especially if its to say something nice/complimentary, my immediate thought is someones trying to record my reaction to put on some tiktok bullshit video.

      I dont even register their appearance, I just quickly look for the Camera, mutter something quietly, and get the fuck away as quick as I can.

      Not tryin to say assholes don’t exist, there is an overabundance of assholes in the world afterall.

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        20 hours ago

        It’s not a look of suspicion. It’s a look a lot of women will know. “Is this person worth my time” sort of look. “Do I consider this person attractive enough to consider human”. I’m not articulating this well. And the response isn’t bewilderment, it’s disgust.

        I’ve had people say nice things to me when I was younger only to laugh in my face when I thanked them so I do know what that’s like.