• ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
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    2 days ago

    Dag, I’ve been guilty of this, with female coworkers I know are lesbians. Is that weird? To be like “check out the girl over there in the green top”?

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      1 day ago

      Just to put it into context, saying “oh, she’s cute … your type?” or similar, that would be ok to me.

      To use a RL example I had of what not to say:

      “See that woman over there?”

      *me, confused because there are many women around*

      “That’s the sort of woman who walks in a room and all eyes are on her. She’s just beautiful, and everyone wants to be with her. She looks like sex on legs, seeing her has made my whole day better.”

      Said by a short bald guy, who is married with 3 kids … I eventually worked out he was talking about a woman who was in her early 20s and just having a friendly chat with work friends. She wasn’t angling for attention in any way, and the guy I was having lunch with was just openly ogling her.

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      2 days ago

      It varies person to person, in my experience. Some straight dudes are also uncomfortable with this “guy talk”. And some bi and gay chicks will do it so much it makes me uncomfortable lol

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        21 hours ago

        Pansexual woman here. The closest I’ve gotten to this kind of talk was gushing about Professor Brian Cox’s smile to a (gay male) friend who loves documentaries as much as I do.

        For real though

        Yeah, talk nerdy to me, baby