This question might be too abstract. But it seems like people look for different aspects in romantic relationships. There are the ones that are drawn to opposite traits, ones seeking excitement, ones that wish for a stable anchor in their life, etc. And most of this happens subconsciously – or it does not. Maybe you have a different approach to love. Tell me about it.
Yeah, this is pretty much the definition of the Triangle Theory of Love . Intimacy is friendship and familiarity. Passion is the joy and desire for knocking boots. Commitment is making plans and integrating goals/finances/families. If you hit all three of those chords, boom! Consummate love.