This question might be too abstract. But it seems like people look for different aspects in romantic relationships. There are the ones that are drawn to opposite traits, ones seeking excitement, ones that wish for a stable anchor in their life, etc. And most of this happens subconsciously – or it does not. Maybe you have a different approach to love. Tell me about it.
Agreed. Love is a choice and an action.
Sad that in most of our poplar discourse, it’s considered a passive thing that happens to people, rather than something they choose to do. I feel like that expectation is socially negative if not destruction. Every long term couple I know frames their relationship as an active choice, but a lot of unhappy people I meet seem to frame it as something they have no control over.
You said it better.