Two religious parents filed a lawsuit on Wednesday against the Anne Arundel County Public School District of Maryland for allegedly “socially transitioning” their child with a masculine name and pronouns without notifying them.
The parents, identified in court documents only as John and Jane Doe, are being represented by America First Legal (AFL), an anti-LGBTQ+ conservative legal organization. The parents want school officials to start misgendering their child and for the judge to declare the school district’s trans-inclusive name and pronoun policies as illegal. The school district has declined to comment on the case.
The lawsuit, filed in Maryland’s U.S. District Court, says the school began referring to the child with a masculine name and pronouns at the beginning of the school year at the student’s request. The parents only became aware of this last December 10 when the school emailed the parents about a lab experiment happening in class the next day. The email used a male name to refer to their child, The Baltimore Banner reported.
The staff member who sent the email reportedly tried to unsend it and then sent the parents a message saying that the email wasn’t intended to go to them, the lawsuit said. The following day, the parents allegedly spoke to the staff member who “admitted to lying in the emails” and informed the parents that their child had requested the masculine name and pronouns, the lawsuit adds.
I, for one, cannot wait for the inevitable follow up several years later when these chuckle fuck bring up new lawsuits to find someone to blame for their kids going full no contact with them. (My mother is almost at this stage and I love it for her)
Child abusers sue child’s school in order to get school to abuse child, too. Judge, society, and legal system allows case to proceed.
So they are referred to John and Jane Doe even though that is not the name on their birth certificate… Sounds like they should sue themselves
Poor kid. I hope he’s ok. Shitty parents should be ashamed of themselves.
Stand tall, John and Jane Doe! Show yourselves so that we can all know who you are. Your neighbors, colleagues, potential employers, housing—they should all know, so that they can decide for themseleves if having hateful fucks for friends/work/professional/etc is what they really want.
Social services should be involved to protect the student and his mental wellbeing from potential conversion therapy efforts by his parents.
Wouldn’t be surprised if this bullshit goes all the way to the SCROTUS and gets the fascist rubber stamp.
Guillotines are coming?
Sounds like wonderful parents. /s
Oh The made up controversies of our times
But (my imagined) God and the Bible (that I don’t read)!
-Republicans and their voters
To what degree should the state be allowed to hide things from someone’s legal guardians?
Like, I totally understand the impulse here, but I don’t know that it’s actually a good one.
What if the state refused to tell a kids parents that they were struggling with depression, and then the kid self harms, and the parents weren’t given the opportunity to provide the support network necessary to get them the help they need.
I’m certain that there are a lot of bad parents out there who would not handle this information about their child well. This article proves it even. But parents being terrible parents isn’t limited to this issue. Should the state be empowered to step in and force them to be better parents? Should the state be allowed to lie to them about what their child is doing at school in order to prevent them from making certain decisions about their child?
I’m not saying that the state has to reinforce the parents viewpoints. Far from it. Schools should be free to set curriculum to what they want and enforce whatever code of conduct makes sense for the school, parents be damned. But I feel a lot weirder about it when the state starts actively lying to the parents about what’s going on with their child while in the state’s care.
What if the state refused to tell a kids parents that they were struggling with depression, and then the kid self harms, and the parents weren’t given the opportunity to provide the support network necessary to get them the help they need.
Gee, what if those same parents spent time with their own children so that they wouldn’t be so ignorant of them? No, better sue some teachers instead.
What if people didn’t keep coming up with slippery slope bullshit and just addressed what actually happened?
A slippery slope is saying “if we allow thing 1, then later we will allow thing 2.” That’s not what I’m saying at all.
I’m saying the current thing makes me uneasy, and trying to clarify the left and right bounds of when that one thing is okay to do, if it ever is.
I think we can all come up with instances where it’s wrong for the school to lie to parents. If you catch a kid smoking for instance, it shouldn’t be acceptable for the school to not tell the parents. And it should be doubly unacceptable if the parents ask for the school to lie to them about it.
Schools aren’t perfect. What I’m about to say might actually be a slippery slope, but if schools are allowed to lie to parents about their children, I don’t think it’s a far leap to say they will lie to cover up bullying and abuse to prevent themselves from being sued or held accountable. Bad schools can be just as bad at being a safe place for kids as bad parents.
But aside from that, I think there’s an important meta conversation to be had about what a parent’s responsibility to their child is. I think in addition to the obvious of providing a safe and loving home, a parent is responsible for raising their child to be a good member of society. It concerns me when the state begins to take that responsibility away from parents and put it on itself.
Now, sometimes that is something the state needs to do. If a child is being actively abused, the parents should be sent to prison, and the state should (in absence of another parental figure that can take in the child and is willing to do so) assume custody of that child. In which case it is the states responsibility to raise that child into a good and responsible member of society.
But these weird half measures where the state says, “you’re not an abusive enough parent for us to take your children away from you, but we don’t like the way you’re raising them enough that we’re gonna actively lie to you about what your child is doing at school,” feel bad to me.
Let’s take the pronouns out of it. Suppose you have a child named Elizabeth who wants to be called “Beth”. This child tells the teacher “please don’t tell my parents that I’m going by Beth; they’ll beat me if you do”. In a rational world, the teacher would be able to report this as the child abuse it is. But imagine this teacher lives in a city/state/country where the judicial system refuses to prosecute nickname-related beatings as child abuse.
What is the morally correct action for this teacher to take?
You are making a slippery slope argument because you’re taking a situation involving schools respecting a preferred name and pronouns and turning it into an argument about a child killing themselves and the school hiding the warning signs from parents.
If you were really concerned about children self harming, you shouldn’t be arguing that the state act as a snitch in a situation like this. Calling someone “he” instead of “her” or calling them by a name other than what’s on their birth certificate by request isn’t going to lead to physical or mental harm. Ratting a kid out to their bigoted parents when they’ve specifically asked you not to very likely will lead to physical and mental harm. These children aren’t property of the parents and they should be given some agency over their own lives as human beings.
I believe they should only be required to tell if they child is a danger to themselves or others. Just like mental health professionals. As long as they aren’t a danger, I see no reason for a school to tell the parents anything but grades and classroom behavior.
I think I would agree for, like, a school counselor for instance. That’s much more analogous to something like a therapist. Teachers aren’t mental health professionals though. They’re there to teach.
But I think we need to have a more meta conversation about the idealized roles of parents and schools.
In my mind, the parent has the ultimate responsibility for the raising of their child. It is their job to teach their child how to be a good and responsible member of society.
School is there as an institution of formalized learning to help build an educated society.
School is not a day care. School is not there to teach your child how to be a good person. School does not obviate your responsibility as a parent to raise your child right.
Obviously teachers should model good behavior to the children in their care, as should every adult in their life, but the ultimate responsibility for that falls on the parents.
When the school actively lies to the parents about their child, they are taking away the parents ability to fulfill that responsibility.
Now, the school may be doing it for good reason. Many parents are bad parents, and are doing a poor job of raising their children. Most even. People suck.
But the state saying, “you’re not raising your children poorly enough that we are going to take them away from you, but we disagree with how you’re doing it enough that we’re gonna actively lie to you,” feels like a weird middle ground to live in that doesn’t feel great to me.
You are inventing a situation to try and make the school look bad. The child specifically asked the school not to tell the parents. The school didn’t invent some standard against the parents to not tell them. The child did. Data establishes quite clearly that revealing information like this to parents is harmful to the child.
